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Here's how you can get the most out of our sessions together!
As we begin to work together on the issues that are causing stress and confusion in your life, there are some things you can do to attain the greatest results for yourself. These have worked for my private clients, and 100s of others I know, who practice self-inquiry regularly:
1. Arrive Prepared -- this usually means coming to our sessions with a completed Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet (JYNW), and doing the Follow Up assignments you were offered in your last session.
Download a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet here
2. Arrive On Time -- if you need to reschedule an upcoming session, please let me know at least 24 hours in advance, so I can use your time slot for another client. If you have an emergency situation, please let me know as soon as possible. If you are simply arriving late to a session, and have not attempted to contact me, I can not guarantee that you will get a "full" session (75 minutes) that day.
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3. Be Honest -- with yourself, and with me. If you are not honest, I can not guarantee that you will experience the results you desire. Sometimes it may be terrifying or even physically painful to speak your truth, and I invite you to step into that scary place, and meet yourself with compassion. I'll be there every step of the way!
Here's a wonderful poem by Rumi that has helped me to notice every thought (even the scary ones) as support:
Read The Guest House
4) Get Comfortable!
Whether you are writing a JYN worksheet, or we are doing The Work together, I encourage you to find a quiet, comfortable place, free of distractions.
For instance, driving while doing a session is not the best idea (especially if I ask you to close your eyes and visualize something!). I recommend silencing your cell phone ringer and other electronic devices that "Beep", and do your best to prevent other distractions (dogs barking, etc.). If you hear background noise on my end, which you find distracting, PLEASE let me know immediately, so I can adjust my environment for you!
Please use a headset with your phone, to ensure the most audio clarity for our sessions. It also allows you to set your phone down during hour 75-min phone call. Please do not use your speaker phone, as it usually causes an echo, and be difficult to hear clearly.
Skype / FaceTime Video Chat
If you want to meet via Skype or FaceTime, a headset works best to prevent background noise. If you're calling from your computer, Amazon.com, Target, and Walmart, have a decent selection.
I use this one, as well as a similar model by Logitech:
Skype ID: TheClarityCoach
Self-Inquiry is Meditation
The Work of Byron Katie is meditative self-inquiry.
THERE ARE 3 MAIN PARTS TO "THE WORK"
PART 1: IDENTIFICATION
You can't work on an unconscious habit or reaction, until you surface the unconscious thoughts that support it.
These unquestioned assumptions/beliefs are the very cause of your stress and suffering.
To Identify your underlying stressful assumptions, we use the Judge-Your-Neighbor-Worksheet. Completing this worksheet is a meditative exercise. Allow yourself to re-live the experience of the situation you are writing about. Become open to experiencing the emotions you were feeling at the time of the situation. For example, if you were 5 years old at the time, write from the perspective of yourself as a 5-year old. Hold yourself in the situation, mentally, and answer each question on the JYN worksheet from the perspective of yourself re-living that stressful moment/situation.
PART II: SELF-INQUIRY - "THE WORK"
Facilitation of The Work is meditative in nature. Answer the questions from the "heart" - your innermost wisdom, not the intellect. When you hear each question, allow the answer to arise inside you, rather than mentally searching for an answer intellectually, or trying to solve a problem.
Until now, you have been blindly making assumptions around the situations that are stressing you out. Self-Inquiry offers the opportunity to question these assumptions - to discover what is true for YOU - not what the rest of the world would agree on mindlessly.
My job is to support you on your journey inward, and to hold you to inquiry, even when the ego attempts to lure you elsewhere.
PART III: LIVING YOUR TRUTH
After each session, I invite you to an Authentic Living exercise (i.e., your "homework" for the week). These exercises are designed to support you to fully live out your self-discoveries, as your stressful belief system melts away. Self-realization has no real value, until it is lived and experienced.
The Shift & The Resistance
I have found that when you begin to shed a deeply-held identity, the ego's next attempt to keep you attached to your fears, is to move into approval-seeking mode.
Fears of rejection, not being "good enough" or "smart enough", not being lovable, etc. often creep in, and take the spotlight. These alluring moments of fear are your opportunities to deliberately CHOOSE PEACE in your life!
Your Authentic Living exercises are designed specifically to support YOU in your situation, and this often involves communication - with yourself or others - including improving your listening skills (even when you're being criticized!), and speaking your truth (e.g., saying "No" when you really mean it, etc.).
You also receive email support from me, even 14 days after we end our coaching relationship. Please use this liberally, to send me your follow-up assignments, ask questions about The Work, etc.
Our sessions together are completely confidential. This means that without your direct, written consent, I will not speak with anyone about any identifying details of our conversations.
The only exception to this, is if you confess to committing a crime during a session (such as murder, child abuse, or rape), in which case I am obligated by law to inform authorities and release my notes and records.
Thank you so much, and if you have any questions at any time, please contact me directly:
Phone: (720) 310-0711